So, today, I'm going to give some ideas on getting that control back. I mentioned diet as an example last post, but today is going to focus more on examples than anything else.
- As said before, by exerting control over what you do/do not eat (in accordance with dietary recommendations for your disease), you are asserting control in your food intake. It's easy to see it as 'I can't eat that'--but that's not what it's about. Truly, I could walk to the bakery right now and get a croissant. I miss them incredibly. Yes, I would feel sick afterwards, but I could still eat it. But I am choosing not to. Look at your diet as a choice. Actively pursue information on diet and understanding what foods have what effect. And make a choice.
- Treatments. Often, going to the doctor and being at the whim of his/her prescription pad is a huge blow to a sense of control. It is easy to feel a victim in the situation--you are, after all, at the mercy of what that doctor decides to do. It seems like a powerless situation. Or at least it can feel that way. When giving up room in your budget for medications and surgeries, you may see it as having money taken away. But, in actuality, you are choosing to value your health over other life demands. Like with diet, this is a situation of recognizing choice. Even when under the directive of requiring surgery, it is still a choice. Obviously your condition of health has forced you into that choice, but it doesn't change that you can still ultimately choose.
- A good example of this is how I chose to deal with the massive changes endometriosis forced on my life. I kept trying to get through treatments as quickly as possible and not give myself time to actually make significant and time consuming changes/stops in my life. This characterized my first couple of years trying to cope with this disease (after it took a turn for aggressive in 2009). When I finally decided to completely put school and work on hold for 6 months, and sought out a highly qualified doctor, my disease finally resolved enough to allow me to resume a normal life. I had many ways to undergo medical treatment for this disease. My earlier choices did not go well--my later ones did. I don't look at my earlier years as being an 'unfortunate victim of poor circumstance and unqualified doctors'; I look at it as me not allocating the proper attention/time off. And that gives me a much greater feeling of control and power than a victim in the waiting room.
Thank you for reading! Feel free to add any examples or email me for questions, firstname.lastname@example.org.